Re: "it’s pretty disappointing to see you share our private messages"
"Isn't it then more a case of "know your audience"? I share things with my spouse in private because I trust them to keep my confidence. I trust that our relationship is means more to them than scoring cheap points and idle gossip. In the workplace, I generally try to avoid discussions which are possibly incriminating and may come back to haunt me later. Especially when that conversation is written down and logged! Especially especially when that conversation is with an already annoyed employee."
You overlook the case of the counter-party deciding that the relationship has become detrimental to their interests.
If the individual is of a character that does not subscribe to the terms of trust within a relationship, then your efforts will amount to nothing.
P.S. Using your relationship with your partner as an example is probably the worst you could choose; you want to sit-in on divorce proceedings and see how soon all standards are broken.
Biting the hand that feeds IT
